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Screwing yourself up

Posted by diligo on March 29, 2006

Much have happened since….much have…it aint a good March. I can name many bad March! In 2006, car accident, gf loosing her job….what else? In 2005, hopitalisation, nephrotic syndrome, big server outage@work, almost loose my job type. 2000, start a relationship that I shouldn’t. 2001, ended a friendship..something new to me..cos I never terminate my friendship with anyone…ironically his birthday was in March..

There you go….March is a bad month…but life goes on…Hey, I am still surviving…From my recent car accident, I realised that I gotta be uber focused when I drive….period! Uber focus….single mindedness….Anyhow, talking about accidents…I am still very sadden by Simon’s injuries…mind you he was not the driver…everyone in the car was ok except him…All the more reason to drive safety…Don’t endanger others’ lives….do not , should not…must not..cannot! Nuff said. From today on, I will drive with care and caution…

Next, is this pessismistic thingie that I must BITCH about!!! If you think are you are screwed up, and yes, my friend the outcome is that you are screwed up.

This is all about human psychology…Say for example, you prepare for a interview, your mind keep telling u that you will screw it up..chances are you will! However, such -ve thoughts if channeled into correct channels…will spurt u to move into securing that job, i.e. research more about the company, build up case for them employ you…sitting there worrying does not nothing…If you want an apple, jolly well, go out and find an apple…The apple will not appear in front of you… Taking initiative will take you a long way….just take a look around you!

Before I end my bitching…do read the following…which I stress that a certain lady must…

7 habits

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The more I know, the less I understand

Posted by diligo on March 24, 2006

I got the call today, I didn't wanna hear 

 

But I knew that it would come 

 

An old true friend of ours was talkin' on the phone 

 

She said you found someone 

 

And I thought of all the bad luck, 

 

And the struggles we went through 

 

And how I lost me and you lost you 

 

What are these voices outside love's open door 

 

Make us throw off our contentment 

 

And beg for something more? 

 

I'm learning to live without you now 

 

But I miss you sometimes 

 

The more I know, the less I understand 

 

All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning again 

 

I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter 

 

But my will gets weak 

 

And my thoughts seem to scatter 

 

But I think it's about forgiveness 

 

Forgiveness 

 

Even if, even if you don't love me anymore 

 

These times are so uncertain 

 

There's a yearning undefined 

 

...People filled with rage 

 

We all need a little tenderness 

 

How can love survive in such a graceless age 

 

The trust and self-assurance that can lead to happiness 

 

They're the very things we kill, I guess 

 

Pride and competition cannot fill these empty arms 

 

And the work I put between us, 

 

Doesn't keep me warm 

 

I'm learning to live without you now 

 

But I miss you, Baby 

 

The more I know, the less I understand 

 

All the things I thought I figured out, I have to learn again 

 

I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter 

 

But everything changes 

 

And my friends seem to scatter 

 

But I think it's about forgiveness 

 

Forgiveness 

 

Even if, even if you don't love me anymore 

 

There are people in your life who've come and gone 

 

They let you down and hurt your pride 

 

Better put it all behind you; life goes on 

 

You keep carrin' that anger, it'll eat you inside 

 

I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter 

 

But my will gets weak 

 

And my thoughts seem to scatter 

 

But I think it's about forgiveness 

 

Forgiveness 

 

Even if, even if you don't love me anymore 

 

I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter 

 

Because the flesh will get weak 

 

And the ashes will scatter 

 

So I'm thinkin' about forgiveness 

 

Forgiveness 

 

Even if, even if you don't love me anymore 

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Munich, the movie…

Posted by diligo on March 19, 2006

A very powderful movie that got Kelly crying. Munich(1972) is about the retaliation by the Isaraelis over the massarce that took place during the olympics games…

What I like about the movie.

  • Steven Spielberg’s directing- masterful indeed!
  • John William’s music score
  • Avner’s human side of a killer
  • The look on Ali’s face when he realised who Avner was…
  • Avner crying over the phone when he talk to his baby
  • The story techniques used…using flashback whenever Avner is in deep thoughts. Good technique! Instead of telling the story up front, Steven Spielberg chose this style which is quite remarkable.
  • Avner’s paranoid state of mind…superb acting!
  • How they killed the dutch lady!

What I don’t like

  • The pace of the movie towards the end…where Avner’s team mates were eliminated This was done without much story telling at all. It is like it happened too fast!
  • The dutch gal should be put to good use! Haha…

Overall, I like the cinematography skill! Superb! Go watch it!

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Is Love blind?

Posted by diligo on March 19, 2006

Is love blind or simply it chooses not to see? Question, my dear Linda been asking me..because of the recent happenings around us.

From my own limited experience, and all that I been thru in the past. I can say without a shadow of a doubt…that love is definitely not blind it is just like color blindness, love chooses what it wants to see and reject what it doesn’t want to be seen. As if, like a photographic filter, like that… Just like a color blind person cannot see stuff in red, it doesnt mean a red apple is really a green apple in their eyes! A red apple is still a red apple…it just that the color blind perceive it other wise.
Many a times, in my younger days..liking someone means putting up with whatever this person throw at us without question…often…you can hear your inner self tell you, I can put up with this…My love will move this person…this person will change for the better…the end of the tunnel, I can see the light…

Well, from my own experience..more often than not, there is no light at the end of the tunnel! Liking someone is not about telling yourself that you can put up with what he throws at you …

After my past failures,I realised that being in love is about being au-naturalle…you feel as if you are still yourself…no changes needed…if there are changes needed..it is for the betterment of the relationship and not that of the other person..And that is really key to making a relationship all work out. You must feel the need within yourself to change and not that your girlfriend constant reminder for you to change. Such change are more long lasting and permanent and not something you say to humour your girlfriend.

So people just don’t realise that love must be au naturalle …not because they don’t realise it…but because they are deeply smitten with love that they cannot think straight….strangely …all I can say that love is indeed irrationale. You cannot quantify it! Love doesn’t keep score….

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St. Joseph Cathedral

Posted by diligo on March 13, 2006

St. Joseph Cathedral

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Singapore Botantic Gardens

Posted by diligo on March 12, 2006

Shot this at SBG today…Good Picnic…with wine n such…Surely we will go there again some day…

SBG

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Raffles Place

Posted by diligo on March 11, 2006

Raffles Place

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Surreal Imaging! HDR Rocks!

Posted by diligo on March 11, 2006

Surreal

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Hanoi, Hanoi Part 1

Posted by diligo on March 7, 2006

My Hanoi experience…What I can say? I can only lament on missing this gem of a place for so long.

Indeed, after my experience in Hanoi, I felt my money could be better spent in Hanoi versus cities like Kuala Lumpur and Bangkok. Both of which I have become rather jaded of. Hanoi (18th Feb to 25th Feb 2006)

Departed from Changi Airport via Tiger airways…who cares about budget airline…as long as you can fly me from point A to point B in one piece and in relative comfort! For the uninitiated, always go for the ‘business class’ seats in economy class , .i.e seats along the plane’s wings. Lots of leg room!

Upon arrival in Hanoi…Dave and me went through the immigration rather smooth. In our pockets, we do not have any Vietnamese dongs…So we had to change them at the airport. 150 USD got me about 2.3 million Dong!

Instant millionaires we were! The air is indeed chilly, something like 17 degrees Celsius!

Boarded a cab at a cost of 10USD to bring us to our hotel, Golden Key Hotel@ Quan Su Street. One thing though, it is possible to find cheap but decent accommodation in Hanoi itself. Be careful though, do try to book before you go to Hanoi. You really don’t want to be sleeping on the streets. Anyhow, in our case, we shifted from Golden Key Hotel to the Pacific Hotel at Hang Bong and have a cost savings of 20 USD a day and not to mention free internet access and a root top café with a view.

Achieved the following on the 1st night:

  • Booked our day tour for both Halong Bay and Perfume Pagoda
  • Discovery of Vietnamese Beer (Vietnamese’s Beer rocks…much better than Tiger, I dare say…several choices available…  Halida  Bia Hanoi  Bia Saigon  Dai Viet Just to name a few….Prices starts 15,000 Dong…Less than 2 SGD per bottle at a pub
  • Tasted Vietnamese Cuisine abeilt a darn expensive Vietnamese restaurant. Eel soup was on the menu! However, it was such an forgettable dinner.
  • Booked our accomodation at pacific hotel upon our return from Halong Bay, cost savings of 20 USD per day. Not bad indeed and comes with free i24-hrs internet!

One bad mistake, I got more Bermudas than pants! Hanoi in Feb is rather cold. Temp ranges from 16 to 20 degree Celsius…Thankfully there are no chilly wind else…it will be freezing cold..

Because of the chilliness in Hanoi, we got to see kids and adults alike with their headgear on…a bit overwhelming for me. Nice for photography, I guess. Life in Hanoi seems to be centered amongst lakes and therefore it is not surprise that the people living in Hanoi are more calm than their southern counterparts in Ho Chih Min City.

Ho Chih Minh City is the name of Saigon but renamed in dedication of the great Vietnamese leader, Ho Chih Min who died in 1969. Oh well, I will leave the history part out of my trip report.

Day 1

Started the day rather early…I guess it is because we are still so full of energy so after the bland breakfast, we headed to the temple 2 units right of our hotel to take pictures…Weather is nice and cold…I guess my camera bag must have weight something like 12kg…sounded crazy right?

Next, we tried to locate St. Joseph Cathedral…We managed to find it after a long while…And gosh, we managed to attend a bit of Sunday’s mass in Vietnamese. The formal is quite similar to the one in Singapore. I like the way catholic masses are conducted, in a quiet, serene way which brings comfort to the soul…Did not shoot at all inside the cathedral… as mass was on.

St Joseph Church

Shot a few pictures outside of the church.. More street shooting around Hoan Kiem Lake, we visited the temple in the middle of the lake…Hoan Kiem Lake is to Hanoi what Central Park is to New York City. It is a focal point for people to meet and what makes the city such a joy to live in. Early morning is best for a visit as Hanoians come out early to jog, do traditional stretching excercises and play badminton of all things.

The name of the lake means Lake of the Restored Sword and comes from the legend about such a magical instrument given the local Emperor to drive the Chinese out of Vietnam. After the war, a giant golden tortoise snatched the sword from him while he was out fishing and took it to the depths of the beautiful lake. Thap Rua or the Tortoise Tower lays scenically on a center island of the lake.

After some of hours shooting, en route to our makan place at the Hue Restaurant. On our table, came 2 bottles of Bia Saigon…Nice beer to drink in a natural air con place. We ordered pho bo, beef noodles, hand rolls, etc. Nice meal it was!

More shooting ensues…Vists to 2 musuems in the afternoon

  1. Vietnamese Heritage Museum
  2. Vietnamese Revolution Museum

More walking and walking…Chance upon a fish shop in Hanoi. Had to take a look. Developed this bad habit many years back. Saw some cryptocorynes

But it is those common crypts we see in Singapore. So much for the vietnamese crypt. Next, we went in search of a foot massage, we were darn tired already….Found a superb one at Le Duan . The address is as follows: 5, Le Duan Street

Total Damage plus Tips: 6.50 SGD + 1 USD Tips

Dinner soon followed….We had Cha Ca! This is the one dish that I highly recommend. Those who never tried this dish when they are in Hanoi, can consider themselves not been to Hanoi.

Chow..more to come….

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The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers

Posted by diligo on March 7, 2006

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers

Law 1 :Never Outshine the Master Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

Law 2: Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.

Law 3 :Conceal your Intentions Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.

Law 4 :Always Say Less than Necessary When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

Law 5 :So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.

Law 6 :Court Attention at all Cost Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.

Law 7 : Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.

Law 8 : Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.

Law 9 : Win through your Actions, Never through Argument Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.

Law 10 : Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

Law 11 : Learn to Keep People Dependent on You To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.

Law 12 : Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.

Law 13 : When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest, Never to their Mercy or Gratitude If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.

Law 14 : Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.

Law 15 : Crush your Enemy Totally All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.

Law 16 : Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.

Law 17 :Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.

Law 18 : Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

Law 19 : Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.

Law 20 : Do Not Commit to Anyone It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

Law 21 : Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.

Law 22 : Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.

Law 23 : Concentrate Your Forces Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.

Law 24 : Play the Perfect Courtier The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.

Law 25 : Re-Create YourselfDo not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.

Law 26 : Keep Your Hands Clean You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.

Law 27 : Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.

Law 28 : Enter Action with Boldness If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.

Law 29 : Plan All the Way to the End The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.

Law 30 : Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.

Law 31 : Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.

Law 32 : Play to People’s Fantasies The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.

Law 33 : Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usual y an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.

Law 34 : Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.

Law 35 : Master the Art of Timing Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.

Law 36 : Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.

Law 37 : Create Compelling Spectacles Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.

Law 38 : Think as you like but Behave like others If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.

Law 39 : Stir up Waters to Catch Fish Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.

Law 40 : Despise the Free Lunch What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.

Law 41 : Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.

Law 42 : Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.

Law 43 : Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.

Law 44 : Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.

Law 45 : Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.

Law 46 : Never appear too Perfect Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.

Law 47 : Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.

Law 48 : Assume Formlessness By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes. *The above 48 laws are extracted from my favourite book, master them and I am sure you will be really powerful…many application and transgression of the laws are featured throughout the book…A good read about people who use power to their advantages*

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